Check Out My Back, I’m Getting Married!

So who else out there is trying to plan a wedding?  No, you don’t need to raise your hands.  I can tell you who are by that panic-stricken look on your face.  It’s the same one I see in the mirror most days, so it’s easy for me to recognize it.

And notice I didn’t say “planning a wedding.”  I think the world “try” is really key here.  I’m hoping you aren’t going through the same experiences I am, but I’m hitting a lot of brick walls.  Sometimes it’s money, sometimes it’s simple logistics, but either way I find myself with a bigger and bigger bubble of anxiety in my chest every time I sit down to work on this shindig.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited.  This will be my second marriage, but I’ve never had a wedding before.  I started dreaming about my wedding day when I was about 10.  Whenever we went to JCPenney and they had a new bridal catalog, I would always pick it up and take it home.  I spent hours in my room perusing the beautiful dresses, picking out which headpiece I would wear, and dreaming about the handsome, romantic man that I would marry someday.

I do, in fact, have a handsome, romantic man that is willing to marry me.  What I don’t have is a dress.  Our goal is to have the dress picked out by the end of this month.  There will be many decisions that revolve around the dress, so it’s an important one.  At first, I figured pinning down a dress would be easy to do, but so far I’m pretty wrong.

I don’t like to follow current trends when it comes to, well, anything.  And I’m not much of a shopper, so even though I live in a world where I can buy anything I want to online, it’s just not the most practical thing to buy a wedding dress online (believe me, I’ve tried).  I’ve gone onto eBay and typed in “unique wedding dresses.”  This resulted in an odd mix, including a short number made of see-through lace and ostrich feathers.  I guess this means I’m not that unique.  Go ahead and do it yourself, I’ll wait.

The big thing in dresses seems to be going strapless.  Since I can’t envision myself having to yank my dress back up every 30 seconds, I’m not interested.  (Yes, yes, I know I can have straps put on.  But then it isn’t strapless, is it?)

And who decided that bridal gowns should be backless????  Why does anybody need to see my back?  “Oh, hello, welcome to my wedding.  Check out my shoulder blades.  Do you feel a draft?”

So wish me luck next week as I punch my agoraphobia into submission and go dress shopping.

While waiting for my upcoming live action search for a dress (which I look at with equal parts excitement and dread), I’ve been trying to make other little decisions.  What will our first dance song be?  Hmmm…  What kind of cake do we want?  Do we even want cake?  Or should we have pie? Uh….   What kind of food will we serve?  Considering they probably won’t be happy with leftovers from my fridge, I really don’t know…..

At least I have the groom picked out!






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4 responses to “Check Out My Back, I’m Getting Married!

  1. Congratulations Ashley 😀
    You’ve got the groom. That’s the best start to organising your wedding 😀 ❤

  2. WOW good for you and congrats to both of you, BUT slow down and just remember this very important advice (slow down, catch your breath and just go with the flow) In the end I will tell you what you both decide will be wonderful as all it really matters is ” you both are happy” DO NOT even think about making everyone else happy it is your day not there’s. Good luck and have a great time and a happy marriage

  3. WOW and congrats to both of you but I just feel the need to say something of advice here to you, As a wise person said to me many years ago during this same time (slow down, catch your breath it will all work out just fine!) and guess what it did. You really need to understand that this is both of yours day NOT all the or any people who will be there but yours. Both of you need to be happy with the choices as it does not really natter to anyone else, so just slow down it will all work out and most of all Enjoy it, it is a new beginning!

    • Thanks! I do find people saying to me that I “have” to do this or that, and it drives me crazy! I don’t “have” to do anything, but i guess everyone looks at it differently! 😉

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