Well, it’s Valentine’s Day, time for all the single people to fill up Facebook with complaints about how single they are, how unfair it is, and when will it be their turn anyway?? If this sounds like something you just typed up in your status box, then I’m talking to you.
I understand how you feel. It’s difficult to be solo on a daily basis anyway, and a holiday that specifically points it out is that much harder to deal with. The lady at the cubicle next to you just got a big vase of red roses. That guy you know from the gym has been bragging about the amazing date he has planned for his girlfriend. Heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are literally everywhere, and instead of saying “Russell Stover” or “Whitman’s” on the front, they might as well say “Nanny nanny boo boo.”
But do you really think it’s going to help to whine about it? Do you think that Mr. or Mrs. Right is going to see that sad-sack status and say, “Hey! That’s who I’ve been looking for!”?
Yes, I am in a steady and wonderful relationship, but that is not why I’m talking to you right now. I’m writing this because I have had PLENTY of Valentine’s Days/birthdays/Christmases/Saturday nights that I spent very much single. There were PLENTY of times that it made me feel sad, or even made me think that I would just grow old and be a crazy cat lady for the rest of my life. I have had some extremely lonely times in my life.
I’m writing to tell you to take this Valentine’s Day to love yourself.
Buy yourself that heart-shaped box of chocolates. Take yourself out on a date. Buy a bouquet of flowers to decorate your dining table. Do what I used to do, and buy yourself a new book on a special day. Heck, do all these things even if you’re in a relationship! You’re worth it!
Don’t spend a random weekend in February moping and pining, and thinking that the negativity you’re pulsing out into the universe will boomerang back to you with an attractive date in tow. Show yourself a little love. I don’t care how cliché you think it sounds, it’s true: You make your own happiness.